Cheating Is Not Gender Specific

There are plenty of women and men who cheat on their spouse, significant other, boy friend or girl friend. But cheating is defiantly not gender specific. If I had a friend that was cheating or I knew their spouse, mate or friend was cheating on them, I would need to do some serious soul searching. To decide to get into someones personal life is not a decision to be taken lightly. It would depend on the situation and I would think about it long and hard. Unfortunately for those who live their life in the public arena they no longer have the privilege of handling their life issues privately.

For those out there, who are or have ever cheated on someone, you are the one who has to live with the consequences of your actions. I am happy that I don't live out my life's dramas out in front of the whole world! Because God knows everyone will have an opinion and make it known. Sometimes I feel that some people are always ready to make a comment or get their jab in. I personally feel that some people just do not have the courage to look at their own life that closely under a microscope. It is much easier to address someone else and the issues and problems that they are dealing with. Or perhaps sometimes it is something smaller like you just don't like someone for whatever reason and go out of your way to make that person uncomfortable. Again maybe it is time to take a really close look at yourself and think about what really gives you the right to judge, make fun of or talk about others.

Everyone is different and we each have our own set of circumstances that are different and I think that we are to quick to judge others when perhaps we should be directing that energy in a more positive direction. Just saying........

Taking Ownership Of You

Everything we do and say in life, all our actions and decisions we make are things that we each have to live with. By "we" that means ourselves and the other people affected by them. Unfortunately, almost everything we do will ultimately affect someone else directly or indirectly. That is reason enough to give me pause. I am not sure that when caught up in a moment or situation that we really consider that fact. Every word that comes out of your mouth you are responsible for, every action and every decision you make you need to accept ownership for all of them. Just because you say something and may mean it one way, does not guaranty that the person on the receiving end will take it the way you may have meant for them to. Once the words have left your mouth you can not just reach out into space and time and reclaim them. The same thing applies to your decisions and actions.

Just think about it the next time you say something, in your actions and all the decisions you make. It will usually affect someone else in one way or another. Whether it is something major or something small, all I am saying is just give it some thought. We all know the old adage "Actions speak louder than words". How true is that statement? In my eyes personally, it rings loud and true.

Sometimes the smallest of things can sometimes have the biggest impact. Just try to take a few extra seconds or minutes to consider what you are doing in a single moment and how it will affect someone, either positively or negatively. You might be surprised how it may change the way you handle and present yourself or even in your own perception of who you are. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and take responsibility for who you are and what you do.....

Dating for some people is like playing Texas Hold'em

Dating? Hum...think I will take a pass for awhile. There are so many people out there who are not happy unless they are in a relationship any relationship even if it is a bad one. Are people just lonely? Or are they not happy with their selves and just don't understand that you have to be happy with yourself first. You can not depend on someone else to "make" you happy. So many questions and so little time. Ok, here is what I think, maybe I have been alone for so long now that I am too set in my ways! Or maybe my standards are too high! Whatever, these excuses are bogus and I know it. However, if I can tell a situation is not going to work I am not going to waste my time or another persons time not to mention their emotions to keep myself entertained. Because if you open that door it may not be as easy to close as you think. It's why your parents always said not to feed stray cats because they won't want to leave. If everyone had a visible personal warning label it would be so much easier. I am just saying it is like a hand of Texas Hold'em I guess there are really only two choices "All In" or "Fold" I sure don't want to increase my bet or call, so I am more apt to fold.